Tuesday, May 7, 2013

Are some natural websites helpful?


Please bear with me.You know I do not usually come here and sound off in this manner. However, I am so pissed off as I went on Facebook to find my picture being ridiculed by a website that is supposed to be providing a wealth of information to naturals and transitioners.

A couple of days ago, I posted a picture of my threaded plaits in a bun. On Instagram, I posted both pictures of my bun with and without extensions, do you know that this website called "Transitioning to Natural" on Facebook posted my picture on their timeline asking people to comment "Yes" or "No" to my picture. Honestly, I had to wonder what their intentions were. I thank God for bringing me this far in my journey, because there was a time that I detested my hair and wore weaves all the time. I have grown so much and learned to love my natural self. On top of that, I work with what I have, which is fine hair. I read so many negative comments today about my hairstlyle that I almost got hurt, but I did not. I realize that a lot of the people commenting are very shallow as evidenced by comments like "I like bigger hair".

I do know that this is not some glam style, I would not wear it to a wedding but I am comfortable wearing it daily . I really do not need to explain myself. A lot of people that follow me have fine hair and I try to inspire them to nurture their fine natural hair.

Anyway, I reported them to Facebook and they have taken down my picture. And I am still rocking my Bun that I love so much.

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20 comments:

  1. Sis you hit the nail on the head!! I'm so sorry you had to experience this.
    I always wondered why some pages/sites think it was ok to encourage negativity when they are supposed to be PROMOTING natural hair! I can't stand those "yay or nay" "hot or not" "rock it or thrash it" captions on pics!! Ugghhh. How can you encourage people to hate on a picture of someone that took the time to do their hair, take pics and post it???

    You did the right thing. I was just having this discussion with my husband a few nights ago and I told him I would ask them to remove my pic if I ever saw it being paraded like that.

    Keep your head up!

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    1. Thank you sis. I really appreciate your support. I never knew that people did such things. It is really sad.

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  2. They really shouldn't be using your photos without your permission in the first place. I think you did the right thing in reporting it.

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  3. Good for you and keep rocking your hairstyle proudly, it looks nice! :) The audacity of folks, smh...

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    1. Thank you sis...I realize that natural hair is not for everyone or people just don't get it.

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  4. Coily Bella! It seems like we're going through similar experiences! I just wrote about it on my blog. I'm sorry that happened to you. Keep rocking your styles :-)!

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    1. Really? Well sister,keep your head up!I guess we should be gracious to people that have not reached where God has brought us.

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  5. I noticed that there are 2 different kind of naturals. You have the naturals who are natural because it's their hair and then you have another type who usually go from relaxed to natural and are more focues with growing out their hair and getting a certain look.
    Don't sweat em! I love your posts!

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    1. Thank you sis. I do realize that some people are still struggling with accepting how God made them.

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  6. I thought they ask for people's permission before sharing such pictures. But hey, look on the bright side, at least you got more readers :)
    I often come across junk on Natural haircare sites and this is why I started the "myth" section on my blog.
    I tend to wear my buns in its small (not big) form, mostly because i'm too lazy to make my own bun and because I see myself as an Afro hair advocate. This way, other women with similar hair texture and length as me would be comfortable enough to start wearing their hair out. So don't worry, people will attack what they're unfamiliar with at first and later embrace it once it becomes popular.
    Those transitioning girls definitely don't know what they're in for

    Adeola
    themanecaptain.blogspot.ca

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    1. They are supposed to ask people for permission. Keep doing what you do. I respect that.

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  7. Wow! I am so sorry to hear this. And very surprised. Tinuke your hair always looks fabulous, and your make up on point!. Please know that. I am a huge fan of your work! Continue to be empowered. And keep up the fabulous work!

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    1. Thank you so much Zainab. You know I appreciate your support.

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  8. I forgot to include are you on Facebook if so whats your name. Thanks.

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  9. I am also sorry you had to go through this. I loved your threaded look.

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  10. Wow. This is supposed to be a natural hair journey not an obstacle course. It's a shame that ADULTS are acting like grade school kids in the schoolyard. I look forward to all your pictures and posts. You have really been a huge resource to fine haired type 4 naturals. PLEASE keep up the good work and don't stop posting.

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  11. So much is shared on FB, Twitter, Tumblr, just to name a few that some forget these are pics and posts from REAL people with real feelings. I hate you had that bad experience and glad you are still holding your head up high.

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