Tuesday, December 28, 2010

Tried everything to retain length and your hair is still breaking?

............................ Do not give up!!!!!

I experienced hair breakage a couple of months ago despite giving my hair the utmost care. I clarified, deep-treated ,moisturized
my hair daily , put my hair in protective styles ALL THE TIME, and was still experiencing breakage.I had to make a few changes to see a HUGE difference. A few ladies have asked me recently what to do to combat the breakage their hair is experiencing. So here are the few changes I made that have helped stop my hair breakage.

  • Clarifying once a month.. I usually cowash my hair every other week. Even though the conditioner cleans my scalp and hair, I still clarify once a month to remove any remaining residue , build up that can cause breakage, impurities from the water I use.(I do not have a filter)
  • Changing my average performing conditioner to a great performing one by simply adding  olive oil and aloe vera juice. I use "Yes to Carrots " mixed with  aloe vera juice and oil to cowash my hair. My hair is soft like butter afterwards. My hair detangles very easily as well using this method
  • Protective Styling: I do believe that putting your hair in protective styles is very essential to prevent your ends from knotting and breaking. However, protective styles should be worn with caution. I have experienced a lot of matting from keeping two strand twists in for more than a week. Pls be mindful of the fact that I am talking about my hair. My hair cannot withstand being in protective styles for more than a week. After a week, especially after washing the protective style, my hair gets tangled easily. So I have decided to only keep my styles in for no more than a week. Also, I hardly wear my hair loose.
  • Deep Treating: I do this once a week. I now add honey, Olive Oil and Aloe Vera Juice to any conditioner I use to deep treat my hair. Once again. My hair is usually ridiculously soft afterwards.
  • Protein Treatment: Some folks avoid protein like a plague. I completely understand why. I, too had to put some of my favorite conditioners away( Giovanni Direct Leave in) as they have protein in them. I have done a series of tests to find out that my hair does not like LEAVE IN CONDITIONERS with proteins. However, my hair needs protein treatments once in a while. I use Aubrey Organics GPB Balancing Conditioner  every other week and this has been working great. It is not a leave in conditioner. I apply it in the shower, let it sit in my hair for 5 minutes and rinse it out right away. I follow with a moisturizing conditioner like Aubrey Organics Honeysuckle Rose Conditioner, which I did not like (check my previous review here) but tweaked by adding honey, aloe vera juice and olive oil. The three last mentioned ingredients have made a difference in the way this conditioner performs on my hair.  I also use Curls Ecstasy which has soy protein in it  once a month.  So I use protein in my hair three times a month and my hair is doing fine. As long as protein is not in my leave in, I am okay.
  • Oil Rinsing: since I discovered this technique, it has been very easy for me to detangle my hair. I apply about 1/4 cup of coconut or olive oil in my hair, let it sit for 5 minutes and then rinse out. I then detangle my hair with a conditioner. The oil rinsing helps melts away the tangles, your shed hair easily combs out as well
  • I do not use Denman Brush to detangle. I experienced massive breakage using the denman brush in my hair. My fine hair does not need that. I also make sure that my shed hair is COMPLETELY  removed. I use this black detangling comb to completely remove shed hair and then follow with my fingers to ensure that all tangles have been removed. I have discovered that my hand alone does not remove all shed hair. If shed hair is not completely removed, your hair can get retangled with the shed hair that was not removed, causing knots and breakage.
  • This is the most important tip I will share on this post. HANDLE YOUR HAIR GENTLY.  I tried not to touch my hair too much when it is dry. In the past, when I moisturized my hair, I would rub the leave in conditioner in my hair and that action led to breakage!!! Just before my hair is moisturized, it is in a weak state, so I now no longer use a heavy cream to moisturize. I use a water mix, containing of mostly water and some oils and aloe vera juice. I spritz this in my hair without touching. I tie down my hair with a silk scarf for like two hours. When I remove the scarf, My hair is soft, well moisturized and shiny. Also when unbraiding and untwisting your hair, be very careful. Do not do this when you are tired or just had "intense fellowship" with your husband..lol.
What about you? Do you have any tips to share with the ladies who have worked so hard to retain length but are still experiencing breakage?



  1. Girl, this entire post is the truth. I think you and I have similar hair; mine is also fine and can't withstand lots of protein. I'm glad to hear you've been having luck with Aubreys. I think I may give it a shot, too.

    And Lawd I know exactly what you're talking about with the Denman. So many naturals swear by that thing but when I was loose it was too harsh for my hair.

    One tip I would give is that not all of us can leave our protective styles in forever. Yes, they're good for leaving your hair alone but I found that leaving them in too long ften does more damage than good. They can be a pain to take out; when left in too long they can become matted and super tangled, causing breakage when taken out.

  2. great post Diva,Im no expert when it comes to hair but I always monitor all products I use anyhoo hw r u???hope u had a lovely xmas with ur loved ones hun

  3. I totally understand what you are saying about long term protective styles.My hair gets very matted too when I leave them in too long. But they are still very essential, you just dont keep them in for too long. I tried keeping my twists in for two weeks and my hair was matted. ...can u imaging just two weeks? On the other hand, wearing loose hair all the time can cause knots to form and break your hair. I totally stand for protective styles but do not believe that they should be kept in for too long

    Yes, try AO GPB Conditioner. It is very gentle and gives the most awesome slip ever. All the best and Thank you so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts with us.

  4. Hi Babez,
    Yes I had a good holiday. Hope you and your family are doing well.
    Yes keep up the ingredient monitoring. Some ingredients are a no go for our hair
    Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts

  5. GREAT...GREAT POST! and very helpful. I totally agree stay away from the denman brush, clarifying is a must ( especially if you co wash) and adding the added aloe juice to every step of your regimen , I have had great results with doing so. And , for my hair as well if I use protein it must be one that is veeeery light , such as soy protein. And, I do believe in trimming those ends when needed ( I've had great results in doing so) lastly, now everyone maynot do this or even feel it to be needed, but since adding a touch of heat during my DC treatments ( via thermal wrap) my hair is super moisturized , with the help of using a great moisturizing DC.

    Thanks again Tinuke for posting this great post :) Take care.


  6. Thanking you for sharing your thoughts Zainab. You are right about the trimming,It is very essential when the ends are lifeless. It is so important to get rid of those split ends. And using heat during deep treats make a a huge difference!!!.


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