"I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge-that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God."Ephesians 3:16-19
I have been attending my local church for about 15 years and lately it has been a struggle for the past three years joining the other saints for fellowship. I told my hubby so many times "we need to attend a smaller church where people show cordiality and have better fellowship". We are a part of Times Square Church in NYC, where there is an attendance of about 5,000 people (maybe a little more or less not sure). One thing I have carnally grumbled about is the fact that there is a degree of coldness in that church. Meanwhile, I am naturally not sociable myself, however, I do receive people heartily. The reality is that the church is not perfect!!! BUT, Our attitude towards others can be very discouraging. It is not welcoming for new believers and struggling Christians. People have left their church because they did not feel loved and they go looking for "a better fellowship at other churches". We all have different levels of strength and must be mindful of that. I am not here to judge anyone. I have been on both ends, being mistreated by utter coldness from fellow believers, and reacting negatively towards folks that are offish.
How His Word applies to this
The key to being properly "rooted and established" is understanding the kind of love that the Father has for us, a real indwelling of Jesus. It's only then that this kind of family love will stand a chance of spilling out towards one another.God designed families for the good of people, in order that there be a safe place for the young to grow, a system of support for those who can't support themselves, a means by which everyone can find value and belonging. We all need to be loved and needed.
In the verse quoted above, Paul is asking for God's strength because we do not naturally have the instinctive desire to be around people that are cold towards us. We can only be tolerant of one another's imperfections as we are firmly rooted in His love.
So I refrain from grumbling and spend more time asking God to help me understand the depth of His love and to fill me with such love for everyone around me regardless of their attitude.